Wedding etiquette?

[norfolk shooter]

@Skinnersblade I agree with both of my fellow hunting brothers about it being a double edge blade. Now me being the fruity chap I am I would say you pick what you want to wear but I'll provide the under garments!!! Best of both worlds and you have made your intentions clear too. Failing that take the gal shopping or get her a nice piece of jewellery that always goes down well.

Ps does she shoot if so should be worth the effort even more if she is a reloader

I have just been told fruity in the USA means gay. In the UK it means generally horny and of given the opportunity will have sex NOT gay.

So just to clarify I'm straight

 

[norfolk shooter]

Is it imperative that a chap going to a wedding MUST have a companion?? I have been to many weddings on my own and have had a super time

 

[Major Bonkers]

Don't offer to buy a dress, which most men don't know or particularly care about.

Offer to buy her lingerie instead. Most men know a lot about this. By all means offer to help her choose between the different options. Try to direct her interest towards something lacy, flimsy, push-up, and crotchless.

The golden rule: no matter how enormous or otherwise deformed your date is, you must flatter her by telling her how good she looks, and how her new lingerie admirably sets off her svelte and beautiful body. Lay it on with a trowel.

If you are fortunate, you may be called upon to assist with fitting or removing the lingerie. If you are really fortunate, your girlfriend may join in.

One other point in relation to wedding presents. I generally find that the specialist marital aids shops offer a wide selection of appropriate goods for newlyweds.

 

[mark-hunter]

If you are fortunate, you may be called upon to assist with fitting or removing the lingerie. If you are really fortunate, your girlfriend may join in.

Or, if a bit less fortunate, his girlfriend might pull out the gun start blasting at both of them!
You never know!

 

[Bob Nelson 35Whelen]

Does your date know others at the wedding? If not and it were me, I'd go alone instead of feeling like I need to babysit her. If my date was my actual girlfriend that's a different story. Also second the advice in telling your gf you'll give her a few bucks towards a dress if she can't find anything to wear. UNLESS you've never bought your gf a dress or outfit of some sort outside of a holiday. Seems you're opening a can of worms with this entire situation.

Then again what do I know, I chose to spend my money on guns, bourbon, and hunting and it's definitely costed me a few relationships but saved some headaches.

+1

 

[Waterbuck2008]

Is it imperative that a chap going to a wedding MUST have a companion?? I have been to many weddings on my own and have had a super time

Plus, I don't recall ever bringing a date to any of the several weddings when I was in the wedding party, if I wasn't with a steady girlfriend at the time.

 

[kdenn]

Ask your GF if her friend needs an outfit, if yes ask her to help shop with a budget given. Best of luck and hopefully you can provide an after action report.

 

[Whitebear995]

If she is just a casual friend then don't buy a dress or give her money...If she is a special friend/ girl friend then you can take her out shopping. don't give out money in any case.

 

[chonk34]

My assumption is that as a member of the wedding party you are expected to bring a date. I have no wedding experience, having attended maybe one wedding aside from my own. With your girlfriend being unavailable on the day and you taking her friend in her stead, I would try to run the arrangements (and the offer to purchase the dress) through your girlfriend.

 

[DieJager]

It would be done with the best of intentions but the way the world is now I’m unsure if it will be interpreted as such

Just be you. You seem attentive, buy her some jewelry, earrings for the wedding, a nice perfume. Whatever you seems feels right.

 

[Newboomer]

Skinnersblade,
Nice thread to ask for advice. But, “I’m over a grand into a suit now”. Dollars? And a hat? Seems a bit much. I personally wouldn’t purchase your girlfriend’s friend any wedding attire. Just my 2 centavos.
CEH

Your girlfriend's friend? I see a great big noose tightening around your neck. Let her accompany you but do not get financially or otherwise involved. You'll have double trouble and end up with no girl. My voice of experience for what it's worth.

 

[WAB]

Listen to the man, you are playing with fire bud.

 

[Newboomer]

Listen to the man, you are playing with fire bud.

Yup. One woman, you may survive. Two women, you are dead.

 

[Mtn_Infantry]

Your girlfriend's friend? I see a great big noose tightening around your neck. Let her accompany you but do not get financially or otherwise involved. You'll have double trouble and end up with no girl. My voice of experience for what it's worth.

My thoughts exactly. This seems like a set-up. Save the money and put it towards your next African adventure, BUT if you're gonna go down, do it in a blaze of glory.

@Skinnersblade how cool is your GF? Does she have a good sense of humor? Maybe joke with her that you're willing to help with either the dress or the undergarments (or lack there of).

 

[Rocked and Loaded]

Girlfriend’s friend? Definitely not. If she doesn’t have the right clothes and can’t afford them she can make up an excuse for not being able to go and that gives everyone an out.

You don’t have to bring a date in the end so I wouldn’t sweat it.

 

[meigsbucks]

Just tell your gf you are willing to chip in because of the inconvenience to her friend, and then let her handle it.

This is above any man’s pay grade.

+1

 

[Randy F]

I would just straight up ask her if it's ok to help her out monetarily because it's hard to know anymore what's "correct", but that you would like to help out if she's ok with it. If she's agreed to go with you in the first place then she surely knows you well enough to not be offended.

Of course that's what I would do...but I'm known to be quite direct...and not particularly famous for tact.

 

[Hogpatrol]

A grand for a suit and now the dress buying option? "Son of a bitch, Bro, I just tested positive for the virus". Problem solved.

 

[DG870]

Sounds like a no win situation, damned if you do and damned if you don’t. Either way you go you will be criticized for what you did or didn’t do. It might be a good week to have to be “quarantined”. Good Luck

 

[Anthonyt42]

Am I missing something. She should be honored to accompany you and the invite should be a sign that you are considering a future with her. Buying a dress for a date seems absurd to me. I grew up poor and I am self made so my history could be my reasoning.