So we did what you are contemplating. After three decades in the military and another in the defense industry, we retired to Texas. My spouse is a Kansas farm girl, I am from South Louisiana (where real Louisiana culture is located), and we both liked Texas when stationed here. Also, at the time we retired, both our children were in Waco. Important to us, after eleven years in Northern Virginia, was that I was
never ever going to shovel a milligram of snow again in my life. Another important thing was reasonable access to a well serviced airport to support my hunting and our travel interests.
Let me preface this next comment on the fact that having grown up on the Louisiana Gulf Coast, I know humidity. CAustin, San Antonio ain't got no humidity! Seriously, the humidity line runs along the base of the Hill Country and then angles off northward toward the rednecks in Shreveport. Houston is, by most civilized standards, almost uninhabitable for about seven months out of the year.
The Hill country and points north have what I would consider normal to somewhat drier than normal air saturation.
We chose Georgetown, Texas. We like the Hill Country, on which we are on the eastern edge, we like the restaurants and entertainment scene of Austin of which we are a satellite town, and we love Georgetown. We can be in Dallas or Houston in a little over two hours, and in San Antonio in an hour and a half. We purchased a little 40-acre spread on the San Gabriel River just east of Georgetown, and I have a full-time half-time job looking after the place. We are literally 12 miles east of the geographic boundary which marks the Hill Country, so we have huge pecan trees rather than scrub oaks. Did I mention we love it here?
It is a toss-up rather Waco or Midland are my least favorite cities in Texas. Everyone loves Chip and Jo-Jo but remember before them, Waco was best known for Baylor University and Branch Davidians. The founders of Baylor weren't much into an earthly good time which has spilled over into the modern city's lack things to do. And we all know how it worked out for David Koresh. We visit there a lot because of our daughter, but frankly, it is not a very pretty town. Austin is one of the fastest growing cities in the country. Well on their way to destroying their own state, Californians are arriving in droves giving the old part of town a Manhattan Beach feel (without the ocean). Real estate prices are rising with the flood of liberals.
We are compensated for our mild winters by a truly hot August (and July and early September). Due to our relatively low humidity (seriously CAustin), it is a fair trade.
No state income tax is a big deal. Property taxes are high, but homestead exemptions help, and should you buy just a bit of ground an ag exemption is huge. Real estate costs depend upon your point of reference. Compared to Northern Virginia, our place was a real bargain. Certainly the Californians think so. I have no meaningful experience with cost of living in New England.
I would suggest getting on line and booking a long weekend in a Fredericksburg, TX bed and breakfast. It is a charming little hill country town, and with a rental car you can easily drive to San Antonio for a day and dinner on the River Walk. Or fly in there for a day or two and drive on to Fredericksburg.
In short, we love it here and our goal is to be hauled off this place on gurneys.